Dangerous
Relationships : !
Psa 11:3
If the
foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
There are so many things people seek to build for a bright
future including relationships, marriages, families, business enterprises,
careers, the future of every country or a nation is indirectly dependent on
these being built amongst the people. The upgrade of good or bad relationships
is marriage where legality on takes from friendship, from marriage, then
raising children becomes the focus of the couple in the marital relationship.
Leaders of every nation are picked from families of the nation. Now, the
foundation laid when the relationship was being built affects our people
through political, religious and social leadership in our countries: if the reasons
for dating, relating and marrying someone are evil or bad, the future of our
countries is threatening, the Bible declares “ If the foundations be destroyed
what shall the Righteous do ? “ the righteous here indicates the children of
God, where the people of a nation becomes the Righteous, if building a
relationship on wrong foundation is evidently going to affect the future of the
marriage, family , business, career and most importantly the country at large.
The focus of this article is to expose the types of foundations that are likely
to be wrong or evil or weak which will 90% affect the future of those engage in
such relationships. I have listed 10 actions of people both women and men takes
to their own problems, the points listed here are subjected to arguments or
challenges if shakes the foundations of one’s thoughts.
The basic thing that challenges the future our lives is the
motive with which some one build a relationship; for the purpose of clarity
let’s try to quantify the types of motives that are deadly to embark on:
11. DON’T Purpose of the relationship
The original intents of an action is termed as the purpose
of it, if we enter into anything without a well defined purpose or know why we
enter into such a relationship makes us vulnerable to any negative thing of it;
some people just chance on others and before they know they are in so called
relationships, such relationships have no good future since the purpose of it
was not well defined. No people can have rest in anything if they don’t know
their destinations on their journey.
The best ground to define the purpose of any relationship is
to go back to creation and know why God created the man and the female.
Gen 2:20
And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the
fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found
a help (AID) meet for him.
The main original intent of God is to provide a
help meet for the man. God knew and knows that as long as one remains a man, he
will always have needs which could be provided by the woman, needs such as:
a. Helping in
decision making
b. Being warmth
by the woman
c. Supporting the
man in all things
d. Enduring with
him in times of adversities
e. Willing to
nurture the seeds of the man in the mystery of procreation
The points listed above should
be some of the purposes upon which the LORD formed the woman for the man, and
any motive that is not in line with these would have been a wrong foundation in
such a relationship. Any woman who enters into a relation without anticipating
the adversities of the man cannot survive in such times and will always blame
God for her misfortunes and keep changing men. Having the right thought and
reasons for entering into a relationship is to have the right materials for
good foundation.
22. DON’T Enter into relationship because of
Riches or Money
Many people have
decided for riches as the criterion for happiness in relationship or marriage
or any other form of interactions in the world, well, it might work for some
people, but not all decision like that is approved by God, hence have allowed
so many into their doom state in this life. One thing every woman must know
about the rich is that, every rich man has wounds that cannot be seen easily
and woman who have endured or gone into battle of life with such men knows where
those wounds are ; such women know where to hold and how to deal with such men
in all their lives, but if a woman who has not toiled with that rich man enters
into a relationship with him, she may not know exactly where the wounds are, therefore
holding or handling the rich man at a wrong place or method can cause him to hit
back at the woman which begins with her misery. Not all Rich men are hard to deal with though,
but I can assure you that about 80% of the women married to rich men whose
partners did not know their sources of income before entering into that
marriage are not happy today. Many of you are being maltreated in the house of
the so called rich men because of a wrong foundation laid in the relationship which
has affected your marriages. It is good therefore to reconsider the man you
claim to love because of his money, because if the foundation be faulty, the
righteous can do nothing.
33. DON’T Enter into relationship on the
grounds of consideration
Nothing about the person links to your dreams, believes or
the right purposes of God as it relates to marriage or relationships but you
just want to consider the person because of some help he offered some times
back to you, or your family or anything related to your life: loving someone
goes beyond marring the person, the purpose of marriage by God’s definition is
absolutely different from the mind of man. You can be good and love someone and
still not getting married to him or her, because as many who have agreed to
marry someone on the grounds of consideration live to divorce some day when the
act of consideration ceases. It is a fact, that all those who entered into
marriages for consideration are craving to break or going through with time
they realized it was a mistake. If you are going through a state of getting
married to someone for this reason, “PLEASE
RECONSIDER IT “
44. DON’T Enter into relationships on
appearances such as beauty or handsomeness
Beauty is good to behold on,
but to apparently depend your relationship on appearances such the shirt, the
boo, the height or anything which is of the class of beauty can elude you some
day;
Pro 31:30
Favor
is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feared
the LORD, she shall be praised.
People shall vainly praise you with a woman who
is beautiful or rich or will give you favor in one thing or another but it such
glory is called vain glory because it shall not last, for the real beauty is
the heart that has learnt to know God her maker, this is applicable to both
women and men. Dating or marrying a man or woman base on their physical beauty is
a big error which needs to be corrected in the mind of the wife or husband
seeker. Find woman or man whose heart is seasoned with the word of God and knows
the purpose of marriage and it’s existence as an institution.
55. DON’T Bewitching someone into marriage or
relationship
Many people get so obsessed with others for marriage for a
reason that cannot be explained, those who knows not God turns to high place
for the person to be taken against his or her will; making love to someone
against his or her will is not comfortable as making love to someone willingly,
juju blinds and works against the will of the person temporary. It is a wrong
foundation that affects even the children in the future when someone uses juju
against another where even children are born out of it, the effort of such a
person will be in vain and all the claim of love is thwarted because if the
foundation be faulty, the future is affected. This is not something new in the world,
but so many women are taking TO the path of Balaam to have men into their bosom
which will have effect upon them and their children. Please if you have that
mind: TURN AROUND AND THINK DIFFERENTLY
NOW.
66. DON’T Enter into relationship base on
tribalism
Tribes are the segregated people in a country according to
the geographical locations of such groups; such groups speak different
languages and behave differently and so many things define them. Many people
choose partners base on the tribal factors, well to me it is not wrong, but
choosing a partner base on their tribe alone would not have been a wise
decision. Relationships into marriages are to fulfil the purposes of God and
also aid the dreams of the partners, if choosing a partner from a particular
tribe that will counter against your believes or understanding in life shall
not be a good one, because tribes projects believes, type of knowledge, and
sometimes religion which is the core of our lives.
2Co 6:14
Be ye
not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath
righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with
darkness?
If God will bid Christian to choose wives from church and
not from the world, then we can also reconsider where we choose our wives from,
for the sake of how we have been raised. If the person you are marrying
knowledge is up to understanding you, if his believes do not contradict yours
and if nothing makes you feel bad with the natives of your partner, then
Tribalism is defeated in the relationship.
For A Jew to marry from Canaanites background was an issue
but sometimes God does things even through these gentiles as a means to
preserve his Dynasty. Tribalism should not be a ground to choose a partner but
it is very important to listen to your hearts in this challenge.
77. DON’T Enter into relationship by pleasing a
third person
To enter into relationship to please someone should not be
considered as good foundation for marriage or relationship. The wisdom attached
to this is that, the one you want to please may die today or tomorrow and the
purpose of your marriage would have been thwarted. Many marriages were
initiated and worked though but for the sake of tomorrow, you have to be sure
of the person you are to move with before the blame game start. The wife of
Isaac was good although Abraham sent someone to search for her instead of Isaac
but Leah was given to Jacob by Laban who was also good but Jacob was not
content with Leah and had to serve again for Rachel who he loved so mach. To please
someone for marriage is wrong but to be suggested to someone for marriage is
not bad. DO NOT ENTER INTO RELATIONSHIP TO PLEASE YOUR MOTHER, FATHER, BROTHER,
FRIENDS OR ANY OTHER PERSON because the days of hardship will come and
the strength attached to this type of relation is weak.
88. DON’T Enter into marriage because of sexual
intercourse
99. DON’T Enter into relationship base on
religiosity
Papa Duah
Writes………..
